Let us hear it. How would you respond if you were to receive this e-mail from a Nepali nari with whom your "kurakani" had in the past?

I think you might have heard my name before. But you might not remember my name. Is this the way to deal with any girl? What these guys think of themselves? Once they get chances to go to abroad they just forget Nepali society. They think that they have touched the sky, moon star etc etc. Among those guys you are the one. What you think of nurses? You just think that they get job easily there so you are searching Nepali nurses though you have girlfriend there. If you have girlfriend there why couldn't you tell that to your brothers before entering to any girls home.
If you have girlfriend there then is it manly to send photos with brother and took photos from here. Is this the way to go to anyone's home (unknown people)? I feel pity and I am very sorry to those Nepali girls who become happy to marry with those guys (who just loss there bachelorism).
I hope you will just remind this to your family members? And will prevent repeating such great mistakes again and again.
These all responses are based on the information provided by your family members.
Keep these things in your mind. One day the third person might be born(child). If this things happen to your child then what will you do? If you have born to be a man and wants to be a man forever then you sit and think and send me the reply for this.

Purush

Neptex ji,

Unfortunately, I don't have the exact reply of that e-mail. It was sometime in last Oct/Nov. It's all over. Summary of my reply was that I just had exercised my freedom to reject someone who I thought was not a good match with me. I also made it clear that she had the same freedom to reject me. I offered my apolozies for hurting her though it was not intentional. I also made it clear that I didn't mean offence.
I wished her a better person as her better-half.
I also have her reply to my reply. Read it guys:

hello,
thankx for your reply n clarification .this is not my doubts. why should i take doubts. its only my view. i don't mean u can't reject. everyone can reject but u? have to tell the truth that the lady doesn't match for me. if u r in position of mine u also will think in the same way like mine (kina girlfren huda hudai pani kura garechan bhanne ta jasle pani sochihalchan ni i mean girlfren cha bhanai pardai nathiyo this information is given by yr family) .if i was in your position i wouldn't see the photos and the person when i had a boyfren.
i'm not a that type of lady who can't understand the minor things. as u said everyone can enjoy with freedom. i too used freedom before doing the? process but not like yours n sorry? i never talked u about freedom. and u too pls mind, i never told u that its easy for nurses to get the job there not there only everywhere.
no need to say that? sending? my photos .I've gotten.
never mind i don't mean whatever u think .i just mean everyone should be? truth and honest.nothing to be angry.
anyway, stop and delete all these happened. be cool and forget , leave it here n close the chapter here after reading this mail.continue your study and whatever u want ............................................. . wish u a very happy life and moment.(be positive).
last, enjoy yourself
?????? have fun.

Nam ta nalekum hai. Tara guys don't regard that I was angry in replying her e-mail as her e-mail would imply. She though I was not honest because someone told her what was a lie about me.

neptex ji mathi ko email nepali ma leknue paryoe..padan agaroe vhayoe hai..
waiting desperately.hai......

"anyway, stop and delete all these happened. be cool and forget , leave it here n close the chapter here after reading this mail."

Guys, did I keep her words though? Now I feel sorry for what I am doing in Sajha. If she happens to read this, she will say I am a degraded person. Would I be in position to read and reply her e-mail? I would simply delete without reading her email, guys.

purush "EVERYTHING IS FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR"
so just chill out.don't worry budy....we r with you...
thanks

And jutta ra khutta ko kura yaha ta namilla ki.

In Nepal, it still might work but in America, runda ni swasni painna yar. Ke jutta sanga compare garnu. Yaha ta Nepali KT haru precious chhan yar. They should be compared with Jaguar, guys , if you really want to compare. You can't think of affording it.

purush!!!!!!!! khai kura bujay koe? huh!!!!!!!!!!...girls r precious everywere not only in america..they r as important as money n as valauable as gold........
but one think is calera the world would have been better place without girl...
god made a grt mistake by making them....

purush jyu,
in my opinion you should look for what a person has rather that what you want.

once cannot go out searching for life partner with a shopping list.

its more like making yourself fit with the other person (O:

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as always
what do i know (O:

Thapap ji; I never thought about that. That is a right idea, but sometimes it doesn't work too. However, it is always easier to tell others but too hard accept for self. I tend to look at face, may be I am crazy, and this the only thing we can see when it comes to see a lady in accordance with our Nepali culture.
Thesedays some guys get chance to speak with ladies for 5/10 minutes before they finalize whether they want to go for each other. Is that time sufficient? All you do is to look each other's figure and face. Basically, that becomes your reason for the decision and the decisions are not always wise.

Disco_Senti ji: Actually god has given us a reason to live by creating ladies, man. Have you ever thought about that? What would you fantasize about if they were not there dude? Anyway, I appreciate your comments.

purush jyu,

i think i know what u mean (O: ...

i have been rejected so many times that i have been kind of immune to everything but i still believe that it would work better if one analyses what the other person has and good outweighs bad. [ of course easier said than done ]

any whooo.. my thought and way does not necessarily fit you. [ it differs win individual ] hoina ta ???
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as always
what do i know(O:

No Comments! Had a good laugh though:D

Purush, the Istri suggested you to delete all what happened but could you? but you made it public..You rejected her just by seeing her photo and but somewhere in you has some kind of uneasiness...may be remorse ? After exchanging few e-mails, may be you have started liking her? Confirm it with urself and still there is time to straighten things up.

purush, just be a purush and leave that crap behind... this is not the end... if she has already fallen in love with you then, she will either leave you or wait for you for your happiness. The problem here is not her but you. What is it you want? Do you want to be with her or not. If not, then here is the email:

Dear ???,
i think we should both think as two adults and come to a conclusion that we cannot be together in this life. If we are meant to be, then we will be in the future but not now.
-purush

If yes, then you know what to tell her... pls wait, i love you and those stuff that no body needs to tell you... i hope this helps.

Remember, it is about you and only you. Her.. she will figure out what to do.. you don't have to worry about her, unless you are in love. if you are in love then, just get married .. don't wait.. go to nepal and bring her here or stay there with her.

Why is it so difficult anyways?

purush ji ....if ladies are only the reason to live a life in this earth, then this earth is very simple. for me a world is very complex, a mathematical problem that has no perfect solution, however there r several solutions , just the way of solving depends fron individauls to individaul....
another thing - what is the problme here, it looks like u have no habit of accepting the truth., u lost n u still odn't wanna losse? be responsible, admit lose, ....
as i told u love is to long. it doesn't stop here,,but be happy u learnt something and life is a never ending learning process just learnt from mistakes and see how ease will be ur life......jay hos i just wish u very very success...and happy

Hey Sujanks! It looks like you didn't get my point. Once I was stunned by that e-mail. I had already dismissed the proposal. I replied her and cleared my position. There is nothing left. No love, nothing. I don't know what she carries in her heart for me. She might have already got married. I am not going to write her anything now.
Today, I was just trying to get you guys' comments how would I have done. Just trying to know whether I did it right. The thing is I do not want to repeat the same thing over again. It was so painful to read those e-mail. I want to behave in a way no one can question me, no one should be offended or embarrased by my behavior. That's all.
Did I make myself clear bro??

soory, correction above, life is too long not love...."milayara padu holaa!"

oh.. okay.. my bad on the interpretation... i think you did right.. because i'd have done the same... i'd continue to ignore all her emails.. if they come in that spiteful format... don't be hurtful yourself.. enjoy what's given to you not sadened by it..

nice to see guys so serious about having a relationship...u can write an epic on this but there's no conclusion as long as the system of 'arranged marriage' is there .

Before marriage, atleast guys, know the person who u r marrying to..its a magic 'click' that you have to follow..people can be good frens but they may not click in a relationship.

Its stupid to have a relationship by looking at sombody's 'CV' ....u r not hiring a staff man, u r making a decision of ur life damnit.

To be fair purush, your whole idea of marrying is like recruitng an employee in ur company...get rid of it ...go n find somebody who matches with you and ur feelings..I am sure u will have somebody just right for you and vice versa.

Good luck...

Hello Purush (Man enough???),

After reading that email, the only thing it occured to me for reply is- I am reading a Nepalese letter in an Angreji version. The sentences are 100% translated from Nepalese to English.

While reading that letter, I was feeling like I am reading in Nepali. I wish we can translate our Muna-Madan exactly the similar fashion as she did with that email. Starting is a typical one- saayad timilay mero naam chahi suneko thiyou hola tara timilai mero naam ko samjhana chaina hola..... ......... ...... ....... ..... ...... .... ...

Kudos Nepali thitis!

Actually, I don't want to bring that part to anyone's attention though it is obvious. The level of English proficiency depends upon which school one went to. I came from a school where I started my "A, B, C, D,......" at grade 4. I am not that good in English too. It also depends upon what you expect from a nurse working in Nepal. I would say not bad.
That is not what we all are concentrating here. I wanted to how you guys would deal in such a situation?
I am thrilledd to have a lot of comments and suggestions though.

"To be fair purush, your whole idea of marrying is like recruitng an employee in ur company...get rid of it ...go n find somebody who matches with you and ur feelings..I am sure u will have somebody just right for you and vice versa."

How would you marry if you were not in love, Sense? I liked your idea, that is exactly what I wanted to do. How would you know some had the same feelings? I believe you know our arranged marriage system very well. I have couple of friends who didn't even see ladies before they got married. They flew from America and got married with the ladies their families found for them. They all relied on resume bro. All they had seen were the resume and some scanned pictures. This is what is happening bro.