Maya was 12 years old when she told her mother that she wants to be a doctor. A daughter of a simple bank clerk and a housewife, Maya didn’t realize it’s an extravagant dream for a middleclass Nepali family. Her mother realized that this dream is not possible with the earning of one person, which was just enough to fulfill the basic need of Maya, her younger sister Chhaya and younger brother Ayesh.

After possibly 2 weeks of sleepless nights and disturbed days, Maya’s mother decided to work. But it was impossible since she has a family to look after. So she decided to start something from her own home. Now the big question is what she can do from home. She is not a very well educated woman or a skilled vocational woman. She cleaned the ground floor room of her house which was unused since she got married to Maya’s father. It was a very small room which opened to a busy street in Kathmandu.

She decided to open a vegetable shop since she realized the locality lacks that. No one supported her decision. Her Maiti people, though very rich and educated thought it was a bad idea and it will ruin the goodwill of their family. Her Sasurali family couldn’t understand her desperation. And her journey began.

According to Meera aka Maya’s mum, “ Maya wanted to be a doctor and Chhaya decided to be an engineer. I worked like a donkey to save money. 4 in the morning I used to go to Kalimati Tarkari Bazaar and get the vegetables to the shop by 6am. Whole day I am in the shop and whenever I got time, when the business was slow, I went to kitchen and cooked. Later I hired a helper. I have saved penny by penny, dime by dime and with that money I have a doctor and an engineer daughters and I am proud of myself.”

The story doesn’t end there. Now her certified doctor daughter, who works in a very well reputed, expensive and posh hospital in Kathmandu, asked her mum not to come inside the hospital. If she has some work, she should call Maya outside the hospital, in a distance and do what she got to do. Meera is extremely hurt with this behavior and still smiles and says its OK.She was told that her appearance and attitude doesn’t match with what Maya wants to take to the hospital. Basically Maya is ashamed of her mother.

Doctors are synonymous with compassion and love. They say a person with a lovely heart should be a doctor coz you need a lot of it when you work. Maya treated her own mother so badly. The mother who had lived her life living her daughters’ dreams and working on it. People like Maya are case of failure to me. I was just wondering if bad Karma someday comes back to Maya ( that I know it will), and her own kids in the future treats her exactly the way she has treated her mum, will she be able to take it??? We shall wait!!!!

(The write up is based on true story, but the names of the characters are changed for privacy reason and requested by Meera.)

Short, sweet and very Interesting Amby. For a while I thought it's not a true story. I bet there are lots of people like Maya who does that to their parents. All we can do is to show the middle finger. Nice one Amby.

Yes Maya is bad, but should not some blame go to her mom and her dad for having raised her in that way?

I dont think such amazing mum has raised her child in that way......:)

KB thank you for the good words......and yes she is just one in many.....hopefully this kind of productions will stop :)

It's like you planted a tree, watered it, provided best fertilizer, cared for weeds, and so on and consciously or unconsciously you cut the bud. No matter how hard you want/try tree never can grow straight.

Paradox,
I dont know if this example of tree is correct or not.....because what i know is you plang a tree you water you use fertilizer, cared of the weed and when its full grown it gives you fruits:)

Ambrosia,
life is far more complicated than you see the doctor who is afraid to lose her reputation by being recognized as daughter of uneducated/dirty/uncivilized mother. it is really nothing other than superficial adjustment but deep down some thing else is boiling which other person cannot see. The doctor is trying to protect something implanted in her when she was child by parents, society or her own conviction.
And in reality, to be proud of parents or ignore them for some reason are just tow faces of same coin, though one is socially accepted and another condemned.

This is very compelling story. We have to hear other side of the story too. Maya and Chaya changed over the period of time but her mum never changed. They want their mum to stop selling vegetables and enjoy the life that her daughters have adopted. You don't still have to carry "kharpan", "doko" or push "thela" if you own 7 storey building.

Paradox,
Yea maybe you are right but at the end treating your mother this way is wrong...... the mother cud have ignored the dream and cud have stayed home...but she went two steps ahead to help Maya attain it.... and Maya knows it well......so I dont knw why shr behaved like this

Dindukhi,
Maya is in Nepal and Chhaya in the USA. Till date they dont have to give a penny to their mother.....Meera is not working these days.....because she doesnt have to...
If Maya has such problem she could have polished her mom......kola taryo lauro birsiyo garnna ta bhayena ni...tyo ni afnai aama lai

Ambrosia,
It is simple, she cannot behave as you wanted she behave to her mother. It is her psychological conditioning which she herself does not understand. Unconscious or subconscious conditioning is far more powerful but act very silently. Conscious mind is silently brought into line no matter how the subject try. Doctor might have already tried too many times to behave differently in this process fantastic excuses are presented by unconscious mind to make conscious mind work in line to unconscious mind.
Can you see her behavior towards her mother as normal as she has no other option. Its like to complain a deaf person not listening to his/her mother.

I agree on the last statement:)

Ambrosia,
Maya is full of self. Her profession and her attitude doesn't match. Chaya making her life together in USA so she has no time to polish her mum. Mum needs to stay at home or hang out with her friends instead visiting her daughter's office.

Dindukhi yea different side you have shown:)

Ambi, let me complete the story for you, if I may:
Maya had a kid and decided that Nepal is not good enough for the child so she moved to the US. During her kid's graduation, she asks Maya not to not come, as she does not want to be known as having a mother who speaks with a heavy accent and smells like curry. Maya smiled-sadly- and all she could do was remember the way she treated her mom.
Sorry to intrude like this.

I am planning to see my parents sooner. I think there are so many friends who have no chance to see their parents and I am one. People matters, not things. These stories making my mum closer. Our children would see same way that we seeing our parents. We cannot change people but we can change reaction.

Metta,
You made me cry with that story.....thank you for making me feeellllllllll
I owe u this!!!

Dindukhi,
Make that sooner that you think.....its worth it:)