Oh this is killing me. :( I know it's me who has to decide but I am so tensed for the last 3 weeks and I saw few people posting their problems here so I decided to post mine.

This is a little bit complicated. I was in a relationship with this guy which started five and half years back. We both loved each other and we both were committed even for marriage. We both were in Nepal at that time. Then he came to US and I was left alone. He used to write emails and sometimes even give me calls. For some reason, after few months, he completely cut off the contacts. I thought he dumped me. I went through a mental trauma for having to lose him. It still gives me creeps by remembering those days.

I came to US three years back (2.5 years after it happened). Just few months back, I was proposed by this guy who goes to the same school where I go. Although I did not love him initially, I could not help and accepted his proposal. We have been dating for 6 months and I have started to like him more than before. He is a very nice person, very caring and modest. I was thinking that I have found my Mr. right.

But just a month back, my ex contacted me surprisingly. He got my number from one of our common friends. We talked over the phone all night, and he explained me about the tension of work/study he was going through at that time, which kept him away from keeping in touch with me while I was in Nepal. He told me that he still loves me like anything and even will marry with me if need be.

I am not sure what to tell him. I had almost forgotten him, but he came back again all of a sudden. I don't want to leave my current bf as well, he has been extremely sincere with me so far. I am in trap. What should I do? :(

simple...say bye bye to you ex...

WHO WANTS TO BE LOVE DOCTOR IN SAJAH????we need relationship advice area..

I M DR.LOVE ..hehehe

solution number 1: email SIDSTER
solution number 2:email LOOTE dawg
solution number 3: email Vincentbodega
solution number 4:email Mansion
solution number 5:Thapap
aru kohi cha?????

move on !!

I came to US three years back (2.5 years after it happened).

should be read as 1.5 yrs**

Thanks ss74k for the advice. It's not that easy as you are thinking. My ex was my first love and we both loved each other immensely. Now that he is back again with open arms, I cannot say NO to him. Although I respect my current bf, and commend him for what all that he has done to me, I don't love him as much as I love my ex. I am being sincere here.

looks like you are not ready for love .

what you mean hello_nepal? :S :S

I suggest that you should take a break from both and then decide on what do you. If you go back to your ex, you might think your new ex is better !!

Its always greener on the other side :)

hahaha....one more...oops...
do one thing, leave both of them and come to me ;). if two good boys are after you at the same time, then you must be sth...hehe :P

well, on a serious note,
get along with your current bf and love him like anything. he deserves more. your ex, although your first love, did NOT keep in touch with you when you needed him. that shows his love is NOT true. i cannot judge any of them but this is what i am getting from what you have written,
1) your ex: chickened out when he was in trouble.
2) your current bf: stood by you when you were not all that ready and still loves you when you like him more than before...he must be sth...eh!

choice is yours, lady!

g'luck
LooTe

solution number 2:email LOOTE dawg replied .. kasto lagyo?????hmm. waiting for other love docs.

Love the one who loves you not the one whom you love.. Your boyfren loves you..You will be happy with him..Good Bye to Ex..

poor gal. No one would wait for their bf like you did.
tell him (ex) - too late friend, i moved on!

Loote:
I think you are right. I am not being able to forget my ex yet so that's bothering me a lot. But I hear your say. You seem to be very mature and nice person! :)


Thanks a lot to all for your advice. I really appreciate it.

LOOTE,
some one thinks u r nice and mature re.. "wink" "wink" (O:

Kamakshi have u ever thought that the reason you still linger onto your old boyfriend is because you are stuck in the thought of "what if...". Well everything happens for a reason, and if you get stuck on your past, and thoughts of what could have happened then u'll never move on and be able to cherish what you have in front of you.
We all get stuck in the past, and yes everyone is entitled to mistakes, but if you don't move on, then you will be cheating everyone including yourself. So before you even decide anything, first move on and out of past thoughts that could ruin your decision.
It takes 5 minutes to write an email, or make a phone call no matter how busy. I don't mean to b entirely judgemental on this guy, but you asked for advice, and my advice is no one should have to wait 1.5 years for a reply.
Cherish what you have, you may not love this person you are with yet, but surely you will learn to, what is that they say...oh yes..."always marry someone who loves you more than you do them."

cheers,
sage

btw i m no Dr phil, i do like beer, blondes, monday night football, and scratching areas on my body.

The vote is for the second guy. gud luck.

Sage_x: I appreciate your time and for the comment. Yes, it does not make sense ethically to leave my current bf for my ex. But this heart thing is really complicated. Ideally I would also have loved to do what you guys are saying, but I am not able to keep my mind away from my ex. He was the one whom I loved with all my heart out. I repect my current bf, but if it is love, I still don't love him as much as I loved (and I think I still do) my ex. Moreover, it's all about forgiving right? My ex is there with his open arms and heart, ready to accept me. He said, he will marry me asap. I am really not sure what to follow. Ethics or instincts. :(

leave your ex bf. he told you he was 10s with syudy and work and he did not contact you for long time. what you do after getting marriage with ur ex and he get 10s again with his work and than leave you. Say good bye to your ex and get married with you current bf. If there is option than there is always delima ...

You are selfish. When you could not find your Ex then you choosed this innocent bf. Now you got your Ex and started to say i do not love my bf but I respect him. What do u mean? So i would suggest you do not destroy your bf's life anymore, go immidiately and marry with your Ex coz you still love him.

Your ex is a loser. You would be one too if you entertain his advances..