I am a married man but I have been in relation with a girl for nearly 2 years and now i left her bcoz i am gonna have a baby soon. i dont understand myself i love my wife a lot but in another hand i love this girl too and we go on very well feels like i have spent the most exciting life with her in these 2 years.i share most with her than my wife doesnt mean that i dont love my wife. i just dont understand wot was happening to me but now i broke off with her just bcoz she said something nasty about my unborn baby. did i do right? well i think so bcoz this relation wasn't gonna work for long we both knew that.i am really missing her though i have said lots of nasty thing saying i will never see her again. What should i do.........HELP.......!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

that movie looks cool, i am buying it right now for ebay.....thanks....

I have the same opinion about you as bideshi has.

You are a weak person. You don't have any self control. Eventhough you left the woman now, I believe either you will go with another woman or will get back to the same one. In other words, you will repeat the same mistake again.

Have you ever thought about what if you wife find out aout your affair?
What would you do if your wife did the same thing?

Dear friends,
I am also married. my wife is in nepal. we have not seen for a year. I can't even imagine, or talk or think about cheating my wife. IT was not our love marriage,i left her 20 days after we got married. She is there. i am here in USA.I would rather keep stay away and spend my time thinking my wife but cheating. I know its hard to stay separated, but you can't cheat your wife. that's not only crime but a sign of unscrupulous mentality and a splitting defense mechanism against yourself. guys don't soothe your heart writing such stuffs in sajha rather
bang your head against the wall and give yourself the punishment. I have female friends too, but i have limit settings for them. If you leave your wife, you will be the worst and you have to pay off someday in your life with some misfortune.

Jaymatadi....
i have said i have made a mistake .....things wont change by banging my head on a wall or killing myself.....well i posted this on sajha and i think its a very good means of knowing peoples view bcoz everyone comment truely since they dont know me who i am and all the comments i am taking as a good example for future and there might be some other people too who might be going through and if there is anyone i would like to say the life i am going through is hell so dont even think of this kind of life..........

I hope this is a joke, a very bad one. You asked for an opinion and here's mine:

I think you are a sleazy *********. Get a huge life and disability insurance and have your wife and unborn kid as the beneficiary. Then in a year or so drive your car against a huge wall. Atleast when you die you'll know that your wife and kids are set.

But if your wife is willing to forgive you, who are we to judge? Be a good husband and a good dad to your kid. That should be your #1 priority.

In all seriousness please get some professional help.

सोचता हु जिन्दगी तो मेरी जिगर भी मेरी फिर् भी भटक जाता हु
सोचता हु मन्जिल तो मेरी मन भी मेरी फिर भी अटक जाता हु!!!

catch 22...make try to come over...

make it easy i meant...that may help you to come over the trauma..sorry for not so good suggestion though

dear mabf
I am sorry if i really hurt you. i did not mean to hurt you. I am telling you. close your eyes, take a long breath, say" lord i am sorry for every misdeed, i would like to return back to my wife, and i will never betray her". Just forget the girl friend and tell her that you can't destroy 4 lives.

then, one day you will realize that you did a good decision in your life ever
god bless you

I am literally ROFC.


Yesh, it's C. Crying.
It's a super sad story, can't help it. Ahem.

Crying because MABF is soo naive. Was it an early marriage? Forced, arranged? ;[

My heart goes out to you and two lovers. I really CARE!

I dont have any sympathy for a man like you. You are what I would call a parasite who sucks into other people's blood. I mean seriously, you love both your wife and that girl.. how pathetic is that? Plus it is plainly obvious that you were having sex with both of them at the same time and that one of them got pregnant you decided that it is upto you to make a decision for all three of you!!

The truth is that you have already screwed up your wife's life. (I would not say you screwed up your or your mistress' life because both of you made decisions knowing the truth!!) If you divorce her she will have to live through the humiliation of a divorce if she finds out and decides to divorce you otherwise she will have to live with you and see your pathetic loser face all her life. And now she is pregnant so if she divorces you, she will probably face worse consequences... i.e having to raise the kid by herself.

If you had thought from your brain instead of your genitals, your life would have been simpler!!

गुमसुम भी नही गुन्जन भी नही...
प्याले मे कुच बचा है वो भी जवाफ नही...
couple of lines rakshi khada lekheko...so lets switch over from sad sad to so so...
कहिले रमझम छ आज भन्यो
कहिले श्यामली भनेर भट्टायो....
कहिले amy को पार्टीमा कहिले jenyको
कहिले के कहिले के....
आधा अधुरो जिन्दगी मा एती शास्थी किन
आधा अधुरो जिन्दगी को एती हिसाब किन

nothing so good...afterall kishne the jerk...

Yeah, he's pretty sick at the same time, "i love my wife a lot but in another hand i love this girl too and we go on very well feels like i have spent the most exciting life with her in these 2 years" Geez, just get a whore instead of playing with people's lives, kid. But he's got me ROFCing and ROFLing at the same time.

i know i am wrong in every inch.......let me give u the picture of my life......My wife who loves me a lot and she is my perfect wife we have been togetherin love for 9 years and married for 3 years now....for last 2 years i have been with this girl who i spend most of my time bcoz we work together i have known her for 5 years now and dont know wot happend we start loving each other, everything we did looks and sound so exciting felt like we were ment to be for each other.....and so on.....we both knew its not right but still could not leave each other.....so we carried on .....we use to have lots of argument but later again some how we went on well.....could not stop ....as i said only after when she said something nasty about my unborn baby i went mad at her and havent seen or spoken to her..........

i am not upset with any comments given by u all as i give u all full rights to say wot so ever to me........but i am sorry i need some help to overcome this hell life and all bad feelings i have in me now.........:-(

I know i was harsh out there but you seriously screwed up!! The only thing you can do now is admit everything to your wife and be prepare for the worst. It will bring you a lot of sadness I guess, but then at the end of the day, you will feel good about having finally done the right thing!!

it seems like you love both women. why not marry the other one as well and all three of you live together? jethilai aamaile rojeko, kanchhilai aafaile khojeko ...sth sth bhanne geet chha ni...hahaha...:P

jokes aside, don't feel bad! what's done is done, gone is gone! you can't correct your past but you certainly can improve your present for a better future. if you want my honest suggestion, don't tell anything to your wife. you've broken up with that girl for the time being, no? let it remain broken up for good. sachhi! leave the job if you guys work together. leave the damn city, if need be. i know, it's gonna be hard but that's how you're gonna resirrect your conjugal life. leave every trace of that girl behind, dig a 100 feet hole and bury everything about her. run for a marathon (no kidding) and try to forget every little thing about that girl.

then go back to your wife fresh--without a tinge of that girl's memory and hug your wife and listen to your unborn kid from her tommy :P....start a new life man...it's never too late. be a man! stop crying in sajha or elsewhere! :D

all the best!

LooTe

Something about this girl......whenever we use to fall out and i dont speak to her she use to blackmail me kind of that she is gonna tell everthing about the relation to my wife and lot other but for some reason i knew she will never do something like that to me. this is the only time she didnt blackmail me might be she is sorry for wot she have said to my unborn baby......i do trust her that she will never say to my wife....she does love me seriously....she is a white british girl......in a way i am glad i met her coz she have helped me a lot in times those days when i really needed but now i feel like i should have never met her.....i am really lost amn't i ??????

Suggestors make me rofl. J/K.

Your story is little bit like in the hindi Silsila (1980) after the part when Amitabh discovers that his wife is pregnant with this baby, he ends the passionate affair with Rekha abruptly.

Beings married with a kid should change the ball game entirely. Stopping to fool around should be a good step.

My honest opinion.:)

haha...looks like mabf hadn't had fun in sajha for a long time. poor us, taking it seriously and suggesting him to do this and that hahahaha....

that said, there could be someone somewhere on the same or similar boat as his (if he's not faking). that's why i am bothering to reply re ke ajhai. :D
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mabf,

what you mean you're lost? you're still to decide on whom to go for and whom to leave or what?

look,

it was not gonna work like this forever, was it? wife at home and mistress (sorry to use this word, but could not find any audibly soothing name to your relationship with that girl) at work... at one point, sooner or later, you're gonna go with ONE, hoina? you canNOT be loving two persons at the same time. tell me, how would you have treated your wife had she cheated on you? try putting yourself on her shoes!

addiction is hard but not impossible to overcome. just because she helped you in the past, doesn't mean you have to live your entire life with her cheating your innocent wife. if you want to do that, sure go ahead and tell your wife that you're gonna divorce her. can you do that? if not, then quit the darn addiction, once and for all! you will be left ALONE if you keep on putting your feet on two boats at the same time. wake up man! wake up before it's too late!