Just a short 'survey' for all married folks on here (only married ones please!) : 

1. How old were you and your significant other when you got married? 

2. How long have you been married for? 

3. What do you think is the right age for a man/woman to get married? 

4. Where did you go for your honeymoon?

5. Should one consider each others religion, caste, socioeconomic status etc. prior to getting married? 

6. Is marriage really a 'job' that you accepted, full of promises, hope and excitement at first but a dreadful, boring regimen in the long run? 

7. What are the pros and cons of getting married? (from your experience) 

(I highly doubt there are too many married folks on here, let alone the ones who'd bother replying to this but its a boring Sunday night and thought I'd ask, that's all). 

 " I have seen so many people I knew going back home, getting married....and if they couldn't brought 'em ova here in time....then thats the point it gets real krazzy.....gawd they skype like all nite myan....seriously.!! "

Isn't that right? One of my acquaintances living in Nepal is having an affair with a married woman (her hubby is in the U.S.) and it literally broke my heart when I found out about it yaar. The last thing I'd do is get married in Nepal and leave my wifey back home. I just wouldn't be able to bear the longingness and distance between us. 

I reckon I'm on the right track as for now. Hopefully, my dream of going to Brazil WC 2014 with my wife will come true. 

Unbelievably enough, dissident's post about marriage turning him into a better person sorta encouraged me. I'm a mature, smart, witty and decent person myself but I'm starting to realize that the lack of motivation, encouragement and drive to 'become' something can be attributed to a lack of woman in my life - not to say that I'm not enjoying my life but still, there are times when I just don't push myself harder to become something because I don't really need to worry about taking care of anybody except me.

I was probably a tad foolish while in college for not looking for Nepali girls (was too busy hanging out with Americans) and I'd highly encourage y'all (especially the ones in Junior and Senior years) to pick/find a suitable match in time. I don't really regret it but things could've been perhaps different (I had fun dating Americans but dating them was like living with cancer, you always knew it was going to end, especially since I'd made up my mind on marrying to nobody but a Nepali girl) It seems more important if you're planning to live here and you need to worry about visa status etc. But that said, don't make finding a match a priority. Bust your ass to finish your college education and securing a path to success but having a woman on your side would be awesome too. 

Mero bihe ma chahin timilai ni bolaula. 

FootYfan bro - your this statement ("But I'd rather, I knew my wife-to-be well enough before she waled down the aisle instead of discovering/knowing her after getting married. ")
doesn't really work in reality. Now, this is according to me. No matter how much you spend 5,6 months or 5,6 years, You know the past and present of her. In future, how she will turn out, it will still be a mystery for you and to her as well. You can predict thet she will be this and that, based on her past and present behaviours, but then that is just a prediction. Not reality. You might increases you changes of getting right about her, but then if it goes down the hill, you will fall more hardly becuase you had high hope and expactations.

Dumbfounded Ji, You made a very valid point too. But i Don't think you were ready to get married when you talk to that guy over the phone. You talked becuase he called. Offcourse, your conversation will last only few minutes. and may be you were not a good match too. My first talk over the phone with my wife lasted over two hours, long distance teyo pani international. You could have seen my face when my phone bill came.
My point is not to make Arrange marriage over Love. They are same for me as long as you are willing to toe knot together. Whatever works for ppl is best option. The only problem for me is when ppl say that they want to know each other before is just a idea ppl throw so that they can blame each other in the future when some things goes wrong. ' timi viha agadi yesto thiyoe, timi change vhayo.
Offcourse, ppl change. its just natural process. slow and steady changes are good. ani sachi Pot kura chahi sarai man-paryo. I do too every 3-4 months, But then I do infront of my wife at home. and She likes. She things I am cutest one when I do. She is just a best friend, and that was important to me. I tell her all the stories about me and my single buddies going to nude and topless bar. She trust me and I know my boundaries.
Best of luck for both of you, I wish you both will find someone your deserve and wished for.

Stupida dai ko kura sunera ta man furunga bhayera January mai bihe garaun ki jasto lagi sakyo.  Especially the bit about you doing weed in front of her (I've never done weed or smoked, I'm addicted to soccer though, kun level ma bhanera one has no idea, my wife will 'suffer', that's for sure ). 

"No matter how much you spend 5,6 months or 5,6 years, You know the past and present of her. In future, how she will turn out, it will still be a mystery for you and to her as well. You can predict thet she will be this and that, based on her past and present behaviours, but then that is just a prediction. Not reality. You might increases you changes of getting right about her, but then if it goes down the hill, you will fall more hardly becuase you had high hope and expactations." 

Now that's a really valid point. Like I aforementioned, I don't think it is really possible for a couple to know each other well and truly well, inside out before marriage. Still, I suppose I was speaking in terms of the comfort zone. I mean, in an arranged marriage setting, when you talk to a girl, you know you're going to get married but surely, it'd be more comfortable for a couple to know something about each other before they decide on getting married in order to weed out issues related to compatibility. For eg: What if the girl is determined to playing the role of a housewife while the guy doesn't want that? What if the guy does weed, is a chain smoker, a lazybum playing video games all day long? You're not gonna disclose those things in your formal talk right? 

But then, people do change after getting married. One of my buddies who was doing weed and all that has turned into a 'saint'. He goes to church with his wife (he never did that before he got married), is a responsible person and has matured a lot over the past 12 months. 

Dumbfounded, come to think of it, I'm starting to wonder if I was the one who made the phone call. 

Footyfan, marriage is like a lucky draw. You dont know what you are gonna end up with. Just get your a$$ married and deal with it.

P.S. I think you are afraid of commiting.

Talk about if your partners will change after marrige or sometime after marrige, there  is a sayin' that - physically and behavior wise your GF or wife will probably become your mother in law. So it is recommended to visit your GF's mother to get a preview of what is coming. I wonder if it is right?? Didn't mean to offend though...
 

 Violet, please check ur inbox. 

Poon hill, I have no idea on what to make out of it tbh. 

getting married is a huge thing..tons of things appear unexpectedly after marriage...

सादी वो फल है
जो खाए वो भि पच्छ्ताये
जो न खाए वो भि पच्छ्ताये

भुझ्नु भो त कुरो ? जब पच्छ्ताउनै छ त किन नखाने ?

@footyfan: LOL.. Tht would be quite weird.. But considering the fact that you have been here for 7 yrs.. I don't think it was you.. He has been here for quite long..
@ stupida: I guess u r rite.. Just wasn't ready then.. And I was all in the moment too.. Junior year parties/ college life.. getting settled who thinks about tht.. Too young and naive.. Lol.. Things might have been different if it was happening now :)

@dumbfounded,"" Lol.. Things might have been different if it was happening now :)""
what yu think about footyfan. For me he sounds like a decent guy....I think y'all should consider it seriously...m not jking!!

Footyfan Bro, yehi ho mauka !! Dumbfounded seems to be ready too. Look at this form her "Things might have been different if it was happening now :) ".   No matter what make it a healthy conversation. FB ma ping gare ne vho ni. Viha vhaya cha vhani chahi yo Stupida li na birsinue hai, budi liyara auuchu. And yeha she likes soocer too, and you can go for one xtra honneymoon to Brazil in 2014. And teyo Pot,  she will let you too ;) .....
La k cha ta bichar ? - ' haani hala hai hathauda, iron tatao cha'

 haha. imagine a guy adding a girl that he met on an online forum and the girl turning out to be he already knew and could've ever imagine getting married to (and vice-versa)  This actually does remind me of a few girls who've added me on Facebook. I didn't say a word to two of them as I really didn't know what to say. Their Facebook profiles sorta gave me an idea on what they were about though. A third girl added me, I didn't say a word for a week, she said 'goodbye', I told her that I wasn't comfortable, we talked, then again the pause. She was married to a different guy the next month.  Then there's this fourth girl, we're still friends on FB. She keeps poking me (in a good way), keeps sending me messages but since she lives in Nepal, I just don't wish to get to know her better as she's likely to get married within a year. 

@dumbfounded, I was only messing with you hun. Since I happen to be a shy type, I could never call a completely stranger girl unless both of us were anonymous. 

 Btw Stupida dai and Cajunboy bhai, I firmly believe in this saying - "If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is." 

Thts misunderstood.. I did not meant to say I was ready.. Its just tht my perspective about marriage and love has changed.. I knw handful of people who found thr love via social networking sites thou.. It's quite possible these days!!!

Only from a married female's point of view:

1. How old were you and your significant other when you got married? 30 and 30

2. How long have you been married for? 2 year

3. What do you think is the right age for a man/woman to get married? 25 to 35 for both

4. Where did you go for your honeymoon? Napa Valley

5. Should one consider each others religion, caste, socioeconomic status etc. prior to getting married?  Not at all

6. Is marriage really a 'job' that you accepted, full of promises, hope and excitement at first but a dreadful, boring regimen in the long run? Disagree. You do make some compromise because no two persons are alike but as long as you know what you are getting into, its all good.

7. What are the pros and cons of getting married? (from your experience) Cons: adjusting to another person's habit. Pros: you get a best friend that you can share everything with.

@ Halo, you went to Napa Valley for your honeymoon? I'd have gone to Lake Tahoe. I loved your bit about finding a new "bestfriend". Funny thing is, even my Best Friend and I don't disclose everything to each other when it comes to really personal matters. 

Yo thread ko replies padhera ta malai pani bihe garne rahar po lagna thalyo. 

I'm seriously reconsidering my own plan of getting married after having set a stepping stone towards building a career. I've completed my college education, don't wish to work for others, but rather, have employ others and make some dough (not money hungry at all). Fortunately enough, I don't need to worry about building homes in Nepal.

I almost feel as excited as Quagmire (minus the sexual innuendo).  

 @ Halo: "you get a best friend that you can share everything with".. aww thts real sweet.. and about the compromises who does it more??? :P 
@ footyfan: just out of curiosity.. what kind of girl do you like??? not trying to be mean here but you add too many girls in FB dun you.. 
@ cajunboy, stupida.. u guys can comment on tht what you look/looked in the girl?? 
 

   I also think footyfan & dumbfounded should give each other a chance to get to know about each other.