MY COUSIN RECENTLY TOLD ME SHE LOVES ME AND SHE WANTS TO MARRY ME AND BE WITH ME. I HAVE BEEN DYING TO HEAR THAT WORD FOR THE LAST FEW YEARS.  . we both been here in US for like 2 years now and we live together. I ALWAYS LIKED HER AND I HAD A PREETY GOOD SENSE THAT SHE LIKES ME TOO. BUT THE PROBLEM HERE IS THAT I WANT TO LET OUR FAMILY KNOW ABOUT OUR RELATION BUT SHE DOESNOT WANNA DO THAT.
HELP ME GUYS.I DONT WANT TO LEAVE HER AND I KNOW SHE DOESNOT WANT TO DO THAT EITHER.

Forget about it man. There's 3 billion other females out there. let's say in your age range there are 30% which would be 900 million girls. Let's say a quarter of them are beautiful. That's 225 million. Don't tell me you won't love at least a million of them (that's 1 out of 225 eligible girls).

Get out and date other girls (I recommend at least 20 a year Lol) man. And the same for the girl.

if you get married to your sister, will your mama call her buhari or chori?

Hey Guys

I have seen many comments regarding ones' love with first cousin. As we all agree - Nepal is one of the most diversified countries demographically in terms of cast etc. Can 'LifeisaHighway' identify his/her so called cast? It may make sense if he/she is from one of the cast they not only mary cousin from Mama and Phupu, but it's considered their first right and it is still in practice within some cast such as Gurung, Tamang etc.

I also read comment from Sexy In Sari in this topics. I will write her in separate thread.

It is normal to marry cross cousin among certain ethnic groups like Gurung,Magar,Thakali. I have seen plenty of people marrying cross cousin in Nepal. Even some Thakuri  practice cross cousin marriage, someone mentioned that our King and his brothers married their own cousin. I believe the idea of marrying cross cousin started when they wanted to keep their wealth within themselves. I was even surprised to learn certain South Indian practicing cross cousin marriage.

I believe the originator don't belong to the above ethnic groups, otherwise he wouldn't be asking this type of question in public forum.To the rest, i know it sounds gross to marry cross cousin but it has been practicing in our country by certain ethnic groups for  many years.

To this thread orginator : If you belong to the cast who don't practice cross cousin marriage, you guys should just break up. If you belong to the cast who practice cross cousin marriage, i bet your parents might think that is the best decision you ever made:)

Yes, I concur with ss74K.

 

 

I fully agree with ss74k ...........you will not be the first couple if you are thakuri King Birendra &Bros and Queen Aishwarya & Sisters were grand children of Juddha Sumsher and in bahun Kathmandu's ex deputy mayor(elected not selected) married to her Bhandai same as your relations see they were accepted by not only family but also the people of the Kathmandu city voted her for the post of Deputy mayor of Kathmandu so do what you and your cosin's heart says dude its your life and you are not going back to live in Nepal anyway in the State who cares and who has time for gossip.

Have you really banged her or not???? First answer this... then you can get genuibe advice here

"Ramayan sabai sakyo, Sita kasko dulahi bhanda, Rawanko", bhane jasto bhayo.
This one is a Big Bang, dude. Literally! Now I know why and how they call it a Big Bang!

stay away, every true love will disappear after few days.

The easisest way for you both is... convert to muslim...  the path will be clear then.. don't forget to change the surname to Hussein or Laden.

Ved555 pani bolcha.... haha.. i am against this.. as.. just like in the previous comment in this thread.. imagine ur sister going out or marrying ur kaka'z son.. 

*Lifeisahighway dude,

OK, convert to Muslim or whatever...but what will you do when your son wants to marry your daughter? You deviated a little from our existing notions...can't your children deviate even more?

You both had to be careful, and it's never too late to correct things. STOP right now as many people in this thread have suggested.

Dude this is sick!!! ... STOP BANGING YOUR SISTER......matter of fact this should be yr new yrs resolution.. "I WON'T BANG MY RELATIVES ANYMORE".... How many times have your mama called you to keep an eye on his daughter??? jo paye tei kta sanga lagla, daya baya lagla, baini ko khayal rakha babu vanera??? But I guess you are taking good care of her haina ta?? BY BANGING HER!!!!! thukka murdarrr ""SISTER-BANGER"" You can trust No One...No one at all!!!! I feel sorry for you ama n mama!!! And one mo shout for your cousin / sister / girlfren!!! If you were that desperate, there are thousands of nepali bokas around....koi napayera tero pervert dai nai vetiss...thukkaa....Nepali haru ramro kaam ma jaile pachadi..yestoo naak katney kaam ma jaile agadi!!

sorry I am against this one too. it has been proven that by mating with someone from your bloodline, you are increasing the risk of having babies with disabilities.

Timi haru le bihe garera bacha vayo vane bro lai dad vancha ki mama vancha ta

I think this is common practice in Nepal in most of the communities. For eg, I know Manag, Gurung, and even our ex-King family has this kind of tradition. On the other hand, muslims do practice this kind of relationship. Even in US if you read US history you will find this kind of culture. So, its up to you and decide how close you are with your cousin and serious you are for your family. Do they accept your relationship?

Recently one of my friend (He is gurung from Tanahu, Nepal is British Army) married to his cousin (Mama ko chori, Aama ko Dai ko Chori). They don't all Baihini to their Mama ko chori - they call them Sali.

So its up to you. If you are really in love then you decide. But think about your future generation and your family relation in the community as well.

Good Luck and hope god will give you power to make a good choice.

bama vancha...baba ra mama  ko combination...hamro nepal ko sangathit sakar jastai...
lol...jiudai vayo vane nepal ma naya naya kura dekhna paincha vanthe..ho raicha...lol

Is it really worth that risk betraying whole family.. man is it people are so desperate they bang there brothers..sisters ..damn the world has changed.

Marrying close relatives..is not good for your future..interms of social impact..it will have..on you and your kids..same time as said it could cause n health issues on ur kids.

even westerner..white (general people) dont' accept this..

I knew one guy who married his own bhauju..stole from his brother..since then he couldn't live a life as a he wanted to so end up killing himself..because whole society n his family discard him ..even he was rite no one believed him. k bhako nepal ma ..maile arko ek jana pani aafnai mama ko chori sanga rship ma pagal bhyera behal chaa.. ke hami nepali teti tala giri sakyoo ra huh

aani yo baini bhane lai pani k bhako ho aru koi pani  payena thukka aafnai dai sanga bang garne.. sajha ma euta post rakhe ta yeti dherai keta chaan every day change gari gari garnu paunthis..thukka