I have been with my gf for 5 years. Last year we decided to move in together, and right now there are talks of tying the knot. Since we started living together last year, I have been getting bored of being with her. The spark is not there at all. She is a very nice girl and I don't want to hurt her, but I'm not happy being with her anymore. I don't know if she would be able to recover if she knew what I really feel thesedays. I feel like I'm not myself because I constantly have to act as if I am in love when I'm not. What should I do??

ok, i am back. i met her. she does nt have any valid or logical reasoning why she did this to me. her logics are very stupid even for 12 year kids. she does nt want to listen to anyone, not even her parents, sisters, brothers. she has become very stubborn and looks like she is totally brain washed. she used to take brata for me in Tij, she was very nice and simple girl until sometime ago. i dont know how she bacame like this now. if just two of us are talking in certain point then i would assume that i could be wrong too and she could be wrong too and we could be 50% right in certain issues. but if so many people are supporting me and everyone is saying to her that her decision is not good and she needs to think with cool mind for her future, still she did not listen to anyone. we are still in touch and she do care for me and she cried a lot when we met but she does nt want to come back to me. sometimes she says, she is not the only person who did this, well thats not a good point to say. how would you say if someone tells you that he/she is not the only person who killed someone, there are so many people who does this type of crime. the other guy now does nt completely believes in her and he told her that she just used him to bridge the gap that she was missing in our relationship. he knows that he will not be accepted in family and she knows that she will not be welcomed by family and other relatives. all of us are in trouble i guess. i do not want to go for anyother girl. .....

O kundale bro,
i don't want to do this, i don't want to do that bhanera ruwabaasi garera k huncha bhanya? sidha sidha kura garna sakinna u sanga? maanche ko yesto chhoto jindagi ma yesari khera faalne time chaina jasto laagcha malai ta. if i were you, i'd decide that i had cried enough, i would take a shower, have a shave, stand up and get going. that's what i did, actually. i have no regrets now. rediscover yourself yaar. it takes a lot, but it's worth, i'd say.