she's 19, i'm 27. no.. we are not seeing each other... i know her and she knows me too ..damn... she calls me "dai"!!
i dont know what to do.. no one has ever made me feel they way this girl does...i just cant get her out of my mind... and i dont want to ... just dont know what to do..
she' so innocent and vuneravle and lovable and everything nice and sooothing..and i feel i am not good enough for me... not that i feel i am bad or something but i guess its the age that is making me keep myself away from her...
its been about 7-8 months that i was first introduced to hert.... it wasn't love at first sight....... it's so easty to love her but it took time... and now nothing ever ever ever going to change it... i kind of avoided her for a few months...beacuse i thought it's never going to work out for the two of us..but it doesn't seem to work..distance only made my heart grow fonder...and last week when i saw her and talked the usual talk .. hi.. how;re you? loong time no see.....i haven't been able to eat sleep think . and now i know i have to do something about this... i really really have to....... she probably does;nt have the slightest of idea about my feelings..
i need help guys.. what do you think i shoufl do.. is 8 years actually almost 9 years a lot of difference in age?? am i wrong?? what do you tyhink i should do.. i mean i dont want to get iin her way.. she's got 3.5 more years befire she graduates... life sucks... help me out!!!!!

Then, apart from that hitch, I wanted to share this with maainhoona and Mercury.

Perhaps you guys might find some cues.

Yesterday, I met one Indian friend, who is a techie (what else) as he wanted to show me his satellite tracking devices, ultra portable machine and what not in his car. It was impressive all right, but for me it was "kalo achar bhaisi bara baar." It was too hi-fi for me. So to kill the technical discussion I asked him to put on some song on the CD in his car. And as a soothing relief, this song played out from inside that more-like-an-office and less like a box-with-four-wheels.

It went something like this. . .

Shekhar Kya Tumne Kabhi Kisise Pyaar Kiya Hai -->(You might want to make her ask you this somehow)
Haan Hai Ek Ladki Bilkul Tumhaare Jaise
Bahut Sundar Bahut Bholi Aur Thodi Paagal Bhi
(Okie these two lines are freaking cheesy, but whatever works. Save your machoism for someother time ;))
Leki Mere Pyaar Ki Ya Khabar Sirf Mere Dil Ko Hai ( Good leading line hehe... for her to ask more)
Usay Bataaya Kyon Nahin (See what i meant? hahaha :D)
Ye Pyaar Bhi Ajeeb Cheez Hai Sanjana
Jahaan Ikraar Ki Poori Ummeed Ho Vahaan Bhi Dil
Aur Mujhe To Inkaar Ka Poora Yakeen Hai
(Now these three lines are killers ;). you got to have a pechant for romance :p hahaha
use these, but to NOT mean these ;) positive attitude breeds positive results - mero bichar hai feri. Does not have to work in this matters of heart/hormones ;) ahahaha)

But I suggest you focus on these two lines.

Aandhiyon Ko Dabaane Se Kya Fayda
Pyaar Dil Mein Chhupaane Se Kya Fayda
(Catch my drift???????????????????????)
So go get em' tigers. Whats the worst that can happen? Aye aap gaye jhataro ta ho ni. And do not worry about people calling you behaving like this and that, un-manly like, not macho blah blah blah. While they say that, they might as well look at the mirror.

While the situation is a lil creepy hahahaha, you know what they about stuffs like these eh'? It is better to burn out than to fade away.

Good luck bros.
IndisGuise:)
P.S: Tyo dai sai bhanne chai roknu paro. Gali gardeu na ani bhandaina. Feri gali gali bhaneko gali hoina ni. Maya le kya ;) Hahaha.

Jahaan Ikraar Ki Poori Ummeed Ho
Wahaan Bhi Dil "Kehne Se Darrta Hai"
Aur Mujhe To Inkaar Ka Poora Yakeen Hai
(Now these three lines are killers ;). you got to have a pechant for romance :p hahaha
use these, but to NOT mean these ;) positive attitude breeds positive results - mero bichar hai feri. Does not have to work in this matters of heart/hormones ;) ahahaha)

-- I hate correcting my typos and this and that. But "Kehene se daarta hein" was CRITICAL. Hahahaha.

Abu bhir bata gultinchu gultinchu bhaneko lai ram ram matra bhanera pugcha ta. Esooo nabajrini jel samma asaaa deko ni :). Fill us in with more info. hhahah

My best wishes
IndisGuise:)

Indi, what do we do without your burst of humour! Cheers mate.
Just keep on firing away at the keyboard of yours - forget typos. My typing has gone from good to worst!

what the hell is indi's problem:O

My baini says, the " Age is just a number ." line is spouted only by those who are.. errr.. a lil ancient themselves.I seriously beg to differ though.There is a gulf wide difference between being old and older. I know of individuals who are in their 20s and act pretty much like they used to , 10 years back. And then again i know of teens who have been through so much that they have grown far too ahead of their time.If he/ she happens to be The One, one ought to leap at that chance . Speaking entirely for myself, i have always found older guys much more appealing. There is a sense of calm and their ego is somewat much more in place:P

Mainhoona... what have you got to lose? Woo her with flowers, serenade her.. ages old tactics ..re kya. A girl isnt all that difficult to please. The basic things work usually unless shes one of those materialistic kinds.Break a leg sweetie.
I do like that movie with Ajay and Kajol. Complete rip off from Addicted to Love with Meg ryan though. Adored the songs. *blush*

Gone with the wind..

There are just too many postings here for me to read all of them... BUT nonetheless... I would like to give you a peice of advice!! ;)

Well Firstly, it is not only your opinion but the girl's too. Age might not seem to be a big deal to some wheras it is of great importance to some people. For instance, if a 27 year guy would have asked me out when I was 19.. I would be totally freaked out. But the good news for you is not all people are same. And she might actually have no preference of age.. BUT your problem is she calls you dai. If I thought some guy was cute.. I would rather not address him directly than call him 'dai'.

Secondly... talking to her in a formal way and just smiling at her when she calls you dai will give her no idea about your intentions. If you are just too embarassed to go and tell her whats on your mind take the long way around. Tell her to not call you dai anymore(as suggested by someone before), and give her subtle hints. IF she reacts in a negative manner.. hide your face and do not expect anything back from her. If she behaves positively... it might either be because she wants the same thing OR she is just fond of you as a friend or acquaintance. You will hjave to go to the next level then and be direct with her.. THEN ypu know what will happen!

So there goes the advice from Dr. Rythm;).. Wish you all the best. As I always say "Hope for the best BUT be prepared for the worst!"

I have big time spelling errors..pls read through all of tht!

mero sis already DR :o| wah...dai is proud!!!or self declared DR?:oS oh well dai jasto raicha re kya DIY!!Delcare it urself ;oP hehe..*smiles proudly* ;oP hehe

anyways kayho..no suchana?:o| mercury bro..ke gardai?maihoona bro ta alik ke garcha jasto cha..timi chai?well hope u try ;o)...get it done and over it re kya ;oP hehe...well ke tha ni?:o|....these age blah blah blah..well one cant choose when ur born hoina?feelns aucha..ke ke ho ke ke ...and all this age gap etc..is bloody bs if u ask me...i mean its all we been taught by our society..which well goes way back in time..if they had been practising smthing diff...it be diff now..and in the end when have u seen ppl not do things for their own benefit?esp the ppl who rules?;oP hehe..ok ok im just lookn one sided hai...i mean i know some ppl who oly gives and gives ;o)..Mother Teresa!!!MWAAAAAAAAAAH!:oD hehe...well one cant be 100% selfless anyways hehe...so duh!!...where was i?...

yap dun build a wall u cant climb..if u cant climb it..how can u even expect her to climb or look over it?hehe..ok that metaphor sounded dumb hehe...but well..u go without makin walls hehe..and well see if she makes walls hehe..if she makes walls..try to climb it or break it re kya...but of cos do it in a way that the person doesnt wanna build a taller wall wahahaha..if she stops makin wall..no more wall..if its a tiny one u can jump or climb over easily..well good ni ;o)...cos where can they be any scenario without any walls hoina?..well we do dream of no walls..tara reality is just so diff..well reality of ours..diff for diff ppl hehe..so wat am i talking about?:o|

any news or not?:o| just wanna hear the news ke ;oP..me too wanna hear and get it done and over with ..hehe..dun u hate it when things arent in our hands?hehe..saab control freaks..and of cos (this is a comment for the other thread..tara yaha ni dinu parla ;oP hehe)...saab hyprocrite hehe..well if u dun admit it..good re kya ;oP...saab hyprocrite ..but level varies ;o)...

anyways...good luck again :oD...and yap being a hyprocrite meself..im wishing u good luck...but if it was to happen to me..the age gap..(ke tha already has happened hola ;oP hehe) i most prob would have built a wall so high meself :oS...why do build walls bhaney!:@:@:@ ...esp when we aint building walls for houses :oS...hehe...ok hope no one wasted their time readin this hehe...im tryn to not built walls(in other things hai ;oP hehe).well at least i do try ..tho doesnt even seen tryn :oS hehe...so good luck to u all too re kya :oD...hehe

good day :oD...

You should be glad that she called you DAI, not UNCLE.

that was harsh U_day

Harsh but true. That happed to me once. I was 23 and the girl was 18. I met this 18 year old hottieat a party and got her number. So, did what any guy would do; I called her up the next day and asked her out. In return she said," sure u_day UNCLE we can hang out at the next party."

I could live she had called me dai, but uncle......dyummmmmmmm.

I thought we were done with this Craddle-Robber talk. Man if you have the BALLS(mojo, courage) go do something or SHUT UP. Like a Bollywood Movie you are streching this DRAMA to the MAX. Either get on with it or get out of it. In nepali there is a saying,"aaati pani chaina Jhaaaat pani chaina"

Hahahaha...

What's happening with progress Mainhoona and Mercury? ;)
Jhan tyasto geet sunako...

It's about time you guys submit your paper.

My best wishes still stands!

IndisGuise:)

Avoid younger women. Go after women that are in their late 20's or early 30's. I have found them to be more friendly, more outgoing, and generally happier with themselves. Also, they are much more into sex than a younger women. Women don't reach their sexual peak until their 30's unlike guys.

I have to agree with BC in this one. Show some courage. Other thing gals are too good playing dumb. They flirt with you and act all innocent. Atleast freaking take her to gal and make your intentions clear.

peace out

PS: Do not make a joke outta of bro and sista realtionship. For me, its noway acceptable to date somebody who calls u bro. Just my thought.

Oh God.... u r still debating onthis??/.... com on..... at least try to get a glimpse on what she thinks about older man dating younger woman... just raise it as a light talk.. and see where she stands on this.
And.. hey...... 8 yrs. is not such big a difference. oh.. of course.. start taling about Tom and Katie.. and see what she thinks.
Good luck!

Thanks for the advice nepalipoonte. I will work on that.

http://www.sajha.com/sajha/html/OpenThread.cfm?forum=2&ThreadID=24922

Look at Aston Kutcher and Demi Moore

Go guys, why wait???