A trivial thing is getting my nerves for the last few days. After a couple of weeks my ex-gf is turning 21 (how weired :-( i still remember). .. just wondering if its a good idea to wish her coz there r many other things , many other things? or maybe nothing

Well, its been more than a half year that we broke up..(phew! my heart also got broken up for few days)..perhpas that was Pyar ke side effects LOL..we did not have any argument, mistrust, blaming, cheating  or something like that but just we broke up nevertheless I dont hesitate to admit that it occured because of me. Though I put sincere effort to keep the relationship in eleventh hour,  things did not work. Now I believe, everything happens for good...Im v happy, at least happier than with her..."Khutta bhaunjel Juttako kehi kami nahudo rahechha".. ani samay anusar naya naya brand JUTTA aaudo rahechha LOL

Well, after break up, I decided not to keep in touch  (as a friend) with her COMPLETELY though she has always wanted and still wants. ( I dont know how on earth these European  ppl wanna  be JUST friends after all those things) She has sent many SMSs after that (Only as a friend hai) but I did not answer coz my intitution says it was not WISE and for sure, there was nothing left to reply "Jo hua so hua....."

Damn, we encountred many times on the streets coz the place I live is pretty small but we never  greeted each other. I really felt uneasy and uncomfortable to see her, and I try my best to avoid her tara nahunebelama k k hunchha kahilekahi ta din ma 3-4 patak Jamkabhet hunchha....Fucck

Do I really have to wish on her B'Day? Why? Im so confused...my heart says "Yes....yes..yes" and my mind counterattacks with a big "NO".....and Im in dilemma Yes No, No Yes, Yes No, Yes No....its such a small thing just wishing a birthday but how could I wish with whom I have never communicated for the last 8 months and never replied her messages. And I dont wanna give her imprssion that "Im missing her and thinking abt her" (this is being a MAN...that hurts sometimes..remember last word only SOMETIES).. Just 3 days ago we encoutered again on the street and after 3 hours my mobile beeped up with usual message "Hi why did u ignore me? U walked as if I did not exist" I just wrote back "I never ignore anyone perhpas I was in hurry, I did not notice U" but the fact was I clearly avoided her and we both knew it well.

I know she will be pleasantly surpriesed if I wish her on BDay but I dont know what kind of message will it pass besides bday greetings.. and what will she think if I dont talk to her even after wishing her (im 100% sure we will collide soon on the streets). Then, she is a v emotional girl and now I remember "Birthday wish" means a lot to her. Exactly a year ago she complained " I think there r only 3 people who care me You, my mom and Jenni" then she was very very excited to have those 3 wishes. She complanied a lot about her sister, brother, friends and even her dad who did not even remember her birthday...Then she whispered  "I was certain that u careless would not remember this day  but u proved me wrong" her eyes were smiling like never before and that was  magic of just  four words "Happy Birthday my dear"

This time, Im still puzzled if its right time to wish though there will be only first two words. One thing is certain  these two words can bring same smile to her eyes

What should I do? waiting for suggestions from experts sajha friends

bro Amazing .. U r in love with her again ... U have two options ..
one
send a simple " Happy birthday sms with missing u ' and again fall in love with her

second:
find another girl and damn forget about that  p      .........usy ...

All the best ... men and women are meant to be together .. until you find another girl ... You will suffer .. I know U admit it

f*** girls...they dont deserve to have long lasting relationship with guys...
girls are obstacles my friend...forget her

do what your heart says....there is no harm in wishing her on her birthday.....but what is she wants to be back to you? are you ready for that? Whatever you do, do not play with someone's heart.....

Best of luck and let us know what you finally decide....

just wish her....good luck!

HAPPY BUDDDAY ! send me a cake so that me n my new gf can share!..n yeah..ill send u a kiss as a present! SMS

Amazing Bro,
Didn't know u dig young girls  

See the reason she is your ex cause she wasn't even 21 before u met her.And you being in 30s
Never Wish you ex if that ex wasn't your friend before and after break up.
This is what i got one time : Fu(k you how dare you wish me ...hehehe And point is she wasn't 21 that time.

Do you still care for her?  If yes, wish her, if not, then forget it bro.  Its been more than 6 months that you've not even spoken to or even acknowledged each other's presence.  In my opinion, let bygones remain as they are and let her do the wondering as to why you didn't wish her.  She deserves the stress more than you do  ;)

Someone seems really bored telling a sorry story and asking for suggestion on some cheesy  and made topic. There is another way of kiling time, count stars dude.

Or a better way of killing time is to start a thread here.

Amazing bro should go and f*** himself. Dude I have read all your love story in sajha. You treat
her like she was some shitty object, and when she breaks up with you, you express your love
blah blah. You dont love her bro you just cant comprehend with the fact that she dumped you.
So stop harassing the sajhaitis and get a life. Man I thought you were better than this, dont you
have any respect for women, besides who expresses his every single detail of private life in sajha.

well...welll........i think it doesn't hurt to wish her birthday. if you THINK you can put a SMILE on her face by wishing her than why not do it coz its her birthday and she deserves to smile on this day. just do it simply as one of her friends not as her shattered ex. may be you might wanna send her a sms or an email if not call her. i guess just one sms or email and don't even bother to know if she acknowledges your wish with "thank you dear" and whatnots. and even if she does acknowledge, don't care to reciprocate further.....just stop there. my two cents hai

k soltaa...bday wish gardaa k bigrincha ra hau...gare huncha....but u jus need to figure by urself ki u still love her or not...nabhe believe me feri lob parcha...feri tyai ghisapita jindagi...Gf lina jau....bhanya thau ma jau....yati bela bolako cha....u luga lagau....sh*t..really sucks...tara afulai control ma rakna saknu thulo kura ho....but mero bichar ma bday wish gardai ma kei jandaina...ki kaso?

Brother,

You are still in love with her, aren't you? C'mon admit it.

 

Amazing ,
1.

. Do you want to get her back?
. Do you still love her ?
. Are there any chances that you can go back to her and have a good relationship?

If your answer is 'YES' throw a surprise 21st Birthday Party.

2. If you aren't anymore interested with her but She is serious, your just a ' Happy Birthday' sms signals her some hope. So don't even send a single txt.

3. It's better to avoid all the accidental meetings  in future and better to shift the places so that there will be less chances of meeting. That will help both of you thinking of each other.

4.If the technique no. 1 failed , follow the no. 3 again ........ !

Cheers
AN

someone's in a real predicament, dude take another street,
point one-------you have a jutta theory (cliche sabai le tei bhanchhan, even if they are duped and dumped , its an                         easy way to console your own soul)

point two-------heart says yes, mind counter----reacts with a BIG NO re!!!!! wuts that??, Even Tom Hanks                             was pretty confident on not jumping in the waters to save Cosco!! , he had a boat to sail                                 on.....my point never regret on anything!!!

point three------you have theories, you have predicaments, you are confused and you reason that 2 words are                              different than 4 words!!!!!!

point four-------Amazing!!! wudnt it be amazing to start over again???     with a different girl!!!!
                        
point five-------wish her with four words you'll still remain the
                         wish her with two words still you remain the
                                                

ani you asked advice from sajha experts???............i am a layman hai...........sorry no hard feelings tara dude sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do!!!!!!!!!!
BOL
occult

amazing bro haha ..not laughn at u!.just at the situation!
ke garney hoina? smtimes all we can do is laugh!esp when we feel so lost on wat to do!

anyways since im not experiencing wat u r currently goin thru, i guess its way easier for me to come to a decision. and if this helps u to make up ur mind(are u counting how many are telln u to go for it and the rest whos shoutin at u to stop wasting ur time and dun even think of such stuffs?;oP  hehe)...yeah go for it!:oD

well u r thinkn about it and have the strong urge to, so why not? just make sure watever u say doesnt send more than one mssg across? cos if that happens, u be needing tonnes of panadols for ur headaches? ..its not wrong to care for another person hoina? so showing u care, is there anything wrong with that?hehe..
i mean put urself in ur her shoes..wouldnt it make ur day if some lost fren(could be ur ex but someone whom u still feel close too but cos u want to get back together ;oP) wished u on ur bday and made u realise u r still being remembered and more importantly..cared for?hehe

and i dunno about ur plan regarding the "two words", if u do go for it..smtimes the less words u put the more it says?esp for someone whos lookn for other meanings in those words ;oP...being short is good..when ur concise ;oP..wat would it tell u if u received just a "happy bday" from someone whom u havent kept in touch for ages, but u still think about?i made u more freaked out didnt i?;oP haha...

anyways good luck with watever u decide to do!:oD

btw if i was in ur situation, im quite certain i wont wish haha(have u ever seen me mention me being "quite certain"?see how confident i am on this!which just so aint me? wat does this tell u?;oP haha)..tho i might care..its too awkward esp showing that to a fren that i have lost touch with...and yeah funny as it is, i do seem to remember some bdays of frens(can i still call them frens? hehe) whom i havent seen nor have been contact with for ages..and to think im the type of person who cant remember bdays for sh*t! yeah its a weird world..

but when i do remember..i guess i start grinning at the thots of how weird it will be if i actually wished them and how will they react(or not react ;oP hehe)...plus its always better to imagine them having a time of their life on their bday than to get a reply sayn "nothing great happened, same old yadda yadda" haha...and well guess im pretty scared to dig the past..who aint scared of diggin the past hoina?;oP

alright enuf of ranting and showing my hypocrisy but seriously...wat i couldnt/cant do..i hope u will be able to! plus u know, we all are here to hear ur tensions if u do end up following our encouragement which led u to having migraines ;oP hehe...darn! u just made me remember a couple of frens whom i had been telln myself that i will ring them for the past 5 or so yrs haha..(their numbers are etched in my mind! hehe)..oh basically once i left that country, i didnt bother passing my number(its a waste of time and money to call me hehe) and they aint the type to email..well we never were the type to talk in email/online,yeah i know weird! haha..and do they still remember me? errr..from my many experiences..if ur weird, ppl seem to not forget u too easily hehe

oh perhaps a belated wish? if ur too scared to wish on her actual day?;oP

"Here is a belated wish for you, May happiness always come to you but not late like my wishes too" haha..i just felt like i was able to "wish" all those frens that i hadnt for years tho i wanted to!...i feel a huge burden lifted off me! watever ;oP

good day!

Amazing bro what I can say is, you are still in love with her and ur finding hard to forget her. U look like ignoring her but everytime you ignore her, u use to think that why did I tried to ignore, did I do right, And this is what I think love is. My first suggestion would be go and give her a bday surprise telling "I love You".

Second suggestion would be if you really want to be away from that girl then stop thinking anything abt her, stop replying her messages and stop posting in sajha seeking suggestions, these things will help you remind her rather then forget. But I know u can't do that cause u still love her. Go admit your love and be together!!!

Thanks everyone for spending your precious time and dropping few words.

i think u shud atleast wish her.... but dont say that u miss her when u dont .... hmmm wishin a bday wont do any harm!!!! all the best

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