Hello All,

I am planning to send  my 2 yrs son to nepal with his Grandparents. Son  born here in US .Has any one send their kids( traveling) with their Grandparents ? Is there any problem with immigration in US AND Nepal since Kid's Father/Mother are not traveling..Please share your experince/ idea  if you have any.

Thanks.

 

I haven't and I am also thinking of that. The only think i fear is the extortion and ransom they asked by kidnapping which is making me think twice before I send them. Let me know what you did.

Dont be paranoid about the extortion unless you are one of the bigshot families from Nepal, blacklisted by the maoist idiots.

Take it easy, this is good for the child. Here's my experience:

1. Have the Parent's consent form filled, signed and notatized. Available here: http://www.freewebs.com/docdiva/Minor%20Travel%20Consent.pdf


2. Complete all immunizations and send the child's medical records/documents  with grandparents


3. For the transition phase, send the food, medicine, milk, snacks the child is used to in adequate quantity


4. In kathmandu, there's this Kopila Clinic for US kids, run by US doctors, register your child there for regular medical followups http://www.kopilaclinic.com/


5. Initially the Immigration department gives visa for the child for a limited period (I forgot how long), you need to renew the visa occassionally, and ensure that the child does not overstay and becomes an illegal immigrant in Nepal (this is true)


6. The airlines allows for one bassinet, stroller, car-seat for the child

Pros

1. Believe it, your child is going to enjoy this and is going to develop a stronger bond with grandparents and extended relatives.


2. Foremost, this is the right age to pick up the mother tongue.


3. By the time the child comes back, he/she will be multilingual!


4. Compared to kids raised here, the kid raised in nepal can actually pronounce Ka to Gya, Ek to Saya, nepaly rhymes and lullabuys

Cons:

1. The Emotional Distress Level of the mother rapidly and drastically increases after a few weeks of departure


2. You may develop Hyper-tension twice a month for PMS and the #1 reason


3. Unless you have skype on daily basis, if possible twice a day, the wifey is going to be chiller!


4. Expect less sex, sobbing attitude and irritation. But this may fade away slowly. Practice keeping mum, answering 'yes' for each of mom's querries and fulfill the demands,

Conclusion: Take care of Bhauju man. She may show herself to be strong but a mother is a mother yaar. Use this solitude between you and Bhauju, by taking her to different places every weekend, take her out for dinner frequently and rejuvinate your intimacy again.

Maile jaanya yetti ho! mero chhoro ni 1 barsa ko huda baa aama sanga nepal gayeko ra 4 barsa ko bhaye pachhi farkeko le, thaha payeko hu.

Bhulchuk line dine.

My in-laws keep saying that they want to take my 10 month old to Nepal for proper care.  Ain't gonna happen!

Same here. I will never let anyone else raise my son. He is my son, me responsibility and i will raise him here with me no matter how much i might suffer. I am a full time working mom right now but that is fine, going home to see my son smile to me is worth all the pain.

 

Ok let me add something more. I heard by sending us passport to nepali embassy in DC they will give some 4-5 yrs visa directly for kids. Can anyone share more information onto this ..what is the process.

Thanks to Everyone. Specially thanks to Ramprasad ji, your information is really helpful.

Guchha,

The decision is ultimately yours to make - however, please understand that you are forever going to change the kid's emotional stature, both emotionally and psychologically. Your current circumstance and environment may necessitate settling for such an arrangement but being separated from a mother at 2 years of age is going to be very difficult for the child to bear. It is possible for him to suffer mental traumatic stress from the new environment in Nepal and from the longing for the love of a mother - which is very emotionally attached at this stage.

I would strongly advise against it as the arrangement will risk the child's normal emotional (and social) development. I do not have a kid so I would not know much, but what I am certain is that to a parent nothing is more important than the future well-being for their kids. If you are going to action this please at least take the time to speak to a child psychologist to ensure that you are fully aware of the repercussions.

JB

I think it's a bad idea to let others bring up your kid. If you cannot take care of them, then you should have not had them.